4 Ways To Take Back Your Power This Spring

There’s a place inside of us all that is calm and steady. The kettle is always perfectly hot. The light is warm and mellow. And a sense of ease fills every crevice of every old floorboard. Everyone’s home looks different, but a sense of knowing remains constant. The knowing who you are is what leads to your power. It’s a knowing that no one else can touch—not family, not friends, not partners or lovers. A true sense of who we are, despite our flaws. Despite our pain and our mistakes. It lives on and never dies. Part of being a human is leaving this home, whether consciously or unconsciously. Seasons come and go and outside of the home, we weather sharp lightning and thick fog. But the home remains the same, untouched. That kettle stays warm. That light never flickers. Here are a few ways we can return to ourselves and our power, no matter the season. —Devon Loftus

Learn more about the ways you abandon yourself: Whether it’s in forced smiles, the biting of tongues, criticism or taking on someone else’s emotional labour, what ways of being make you feel less like yourself?

Protect your power: We often lose ourselves in reactions or retreats. Those moments when our systems are dysregulated and hurt story patterns repeat. It’s only human. But no one and nothing is worth losing ourselves for. Return to the body in these moments. Give yourself compassion for how you feel. Pause. Breathe. And decide the best way to move forward from there.

Learn more about the ways you come back to yourself: Impromptu dancing. Brush strokes. A body of water or juicy fruit. What makes you feel like a kid again? What makes you happy to be you?

Prioritize the walk back home: It’s easy to get caught in the rain and forget there’s a dry bed waiting for you to return to. The rain is cleansing. But rain is only one element. And you’re made of many. Practice returning to yourself as often as you can. The more you cherish and prioritize your innate power, the easier it becomes to access it.

Devon Loftus is a storyteller, business owner and the author of Dwell: A Journal for Naming, Processing, and Embracing Your Emotions. Loftus recently became a certified End-of-Life doula and Positive Psychology Practitioner, and enjoys sharing her writing in her newsletter and on social media.