No wedding party? No problems! That’s what many couples are discovering to be a huge upside of taking a hard pass on bridesmaids and groomsmen.
As we continue to be in the era of intimate weddings, the wedding party is one detail being edited out and it can be a great thing for many reasons. Most notably, there is less stress because there are fewer people involved in the inner workings of your day, and that allows you to focus your energy (and your budget) on each other and your guests.
If you’ve been in a wedding party before, you know everything that comes with the job—the costs, the time commitment, the emotional investment. It’s a lot of work and is something you may have realized in planning your own day is a responsibility you’d rather not put on family and friends, but rather have them enjoy your day exclusively as partygoers.
On the fence and need us to spell out the pros of not having a wedding party? Read on for our thoughts that will help support your decision to be solo fliers. —Alison McGill
You Want To Keep Things Low Key
If you don’t love a big production, not having attendants is really a no-brainer for you. Large groups of close friends and family can inevitably bring a load of drama, so choosing to walk through your day with just each other is really the smartest thing you can do. If you do feel like you would like a little support, each of you should choose one person to stand up with you on the day, someone who not only means a lot to you, but you are totally comfortable with to be your authentic self.
You Prefer To Be The One Planning All Your Wedding Events
Bridesmaids typically help out with a lot of pre-wedding things like planning the bachelorette, bridal shower, and even helping to choose key wedding vendors and details like the menu and flowers. If you like to be in control of things, these are things you will want to direct. You can always ask for help from your life support staff when you need it, and they will likely be happy to play a small part in making your big day a special one.
You Want More Time To Enjoy Your Wedding Day
It goes by quickly, and at times it can feel you are rushing through the day to get everything done. When you only have you to focus on, you are actually giving yourself time back in your wedding day schedule. You are not slammed through hair and makeup, you can enjoy getting ready, and you don’t have to capture large groups of people in your wedding photos. All of this adds up to more time for you and that’s a very good thing.
You Might Be Doing Your Friends And Family A Favour
There’s a thought that you may offend people who you think are expecting to be in your wedding party. The gesture of being asked to be in a wedding party does mean a lot, but for many people it also feels like something they have to say yes to, even if they aren’t comfortable with it. Many people don’t have the capacity to take the job on—they may have a stacked home/work life, not be in a great financial place, or simply feel anxious about being in the spotlight and shouldering responsibilities. You will likely be surprised to find out they are relieved to be just a wedding guest.
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