Finding Your Soulful Path: Patti Stanger On Healing, Love & Empowerment With Born-for-More.

Women’s empowerment organization Born for More produces signature events, coaching sessions and a Soulful Divorcee online program aimed at empowering women to embrace their inner and outer beauty. In the spirit of helping women move forward and find love, they connected us with renowned relationship expert Patti Stanger, best known as the host of Millionaire Matchmaker, to hear her advice on moving forward and finding love. We chatted with Patti about empowerment and healing. —Noa Nichol

You’ve worked with countless individuals on finding love after heartbreak—what advice do you have for women who are navigating life after divorce or a major breakup?

I think the first thing you need to do is find a hobby where men go and get out of the house. We are too online these days none of us are looking up. It’s like the phone has become the husband! It’s important to do hobbies where men are so you can start practicing your flirt.

What are some of the biggest red flags women should look out for in a new relationship after divorce or a major life change?

Men that want you to be their mother or that are looking to be fixed or taken care of emotionally or financially are the biggest flags.

What are some essential steps women can take to heal and make themselves more “dateworthy”?

The first thing you need to do is externally look at yourself and change something. Maybe it’s as simple as getting your hair done. This is going to start building your confidence and will act as a signal that you are ready.

If you don’t feel good on the inside, start meditating, take walks and move your body. I also recommend you write a list of the top 10 things you want in a mate and focus on that list when you are dating. You have already been married; you are just trying to find the one that is compatible to you.

From your experience as the “Millionaire Matchmaker,” how important is self-confidence in the dating world, and how can women rebuild that confidence after a divorce or breakup?

Confidence is key and the only way to get that is to be secure within yourself.

It’s also important to take your time. If you don’t meet anyone right away, don’t put pressure on yourself. This is not a race.

What are some practical dating tips you can offer for women re-entering the dating scene, especially if they’ve been out of it for many years?

Step 1: Get out of the house, Step 2: Make new friends in the same situation so that you have things to do with other people. Step 3: Go where men go.

What do you hope women take away from this conversation, and how can they use your insights to create a brighter, more empowered future?

I hope that the women I meet will take away a sense that they are not alone. Divorce isn’t the end and they have a lot more life to live with a loving partner.